• Reply cheekytitah December 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    This my dear is all going to pass. I am a twin mum and i never though i was going to make it. And today my girls will be turning two in 2months and everthing is okay. I just stare at them and feel wow! I am blessed.

  • Reply Alex December 5, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    It is extremely ‘hard but gets easier.’ When your exhausted, hungry and want a shower this phrase everyone tells you doesn’t help but I promise that one day you will sit and think ‘it’s getting easier’, before someone screams or a nappy needs changing! Ha ha! The fact your scared you will fail shows a passion and a love for these babies that won’t let you fail! Remember take help when it’s offered, have days out with your partner, forget the washing and cleaning (let yourself chill when you can, the world won’t end) and enjoy your babies. Good luck you will Be stronger than you think.

  • Reply triplejanes December 14, 2016 at 2:50 am

    The turning into a ware wolf made me laugh! The hair grows everywhere. I remember having meltdowns because I was so hairy and couldn’t stop it from growing everywhere. This was a great read!

  • Reply triplejanes December 14, 2016 at 2:54 am

    You can do it. Trust me. My mom said the greatest thing she could have ever done was have us really close in age. My older brother and I are only 13 months apart. You will manage. It will become normal to you.

  • Reply Lisa V December 29, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    Great post. You do what yo need to do to be the best mom you can be. Don’t listen to the “judgy” moms. No one knows what will bond you to your baby more than you. I only breast fed for a few months, and stopped because I’m epileptic and, because of a medication change, it wasn’t healthy for the baby. Every situation is different and no one has the right to tell you differently. By the way, my kids turned out just as smart as their classmates in spite of giving them formula (note my sarcasm). You do what you need to. Trust me, the “judgy moms” will make plenty of not popular decisions down the road. They’ll have their day when people will judge what they do too. Best wishes!

    • Reply yooolka December 29, 2016 at 4:16 pm

      Thank you for your comment! I think I couldn’t formulate it better!!!!

  • Reply meluknows December 29, 2016 at 9:28 pm

    Yes, yes, and Yesssssssssss!!!!!! The “mommy dearest a.k.a Mother knows best” mentality is a form of passive-aggressive bullying. There isn’t a one-size fits all standard of how to parent. I learned that quickly in my 8.5mths of mommyhood.

  • Reply tricestake December 30, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Thanks for sharing! I have similar thoughts with my second coming soon. My first baby was in intensive care and my milk never came in despite trying, pumping, and consulting with numerous lactation specialists.

  • Reply Elise February 2, 2017 at 3:04 pm

    I had those same fears, Mama. And that my twins are toddlers, I have fears about getting pregnant again. I want a third child, but it will throw off our “you carry one, I’ll carry the other” balance. It will mean that two children get held and one child gets left out. I wonder if it will make things so stressful that I feel unhappy. And the idea of being unhappy because of precious, innocent children is a hard thought to grasp. But I can tell you that with twins, the first year – especially the first six months – are the most draining and brutal thing I ever experienced. At seven months things started getting easier, and at around 14 months things got easier still. If you can hold on for just a few months at a time, you can make it, section by section.

    • Reply yooolka February 2, 2017 at 4:29 pm

      Thank you, Elise! I appreciate your support.

  • Reply Shelby February 18, 2017 at 1:31 am

    Love this! Reminds me very much of my relationship. It is so true that each person changes for the baby and then that translates to changing for each other.

  • Reply Sarah Vieira February 18, 2017 at 2:40 pm

    I’m so glad you’ve written this. Poor daddies do get the short end of the stick. Often forgotten, and they go thru this journey as we do. It’s so important to make them feel their role is so necessary in parenthood, it’s just no mommy, its mommy and daddy!

  • Reply Stefanija February 19, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    Don’t worry, despite me being a c section baby and i was fed formula, I am still “capable” to study medicine.
    Apsveicu Tevi,ar šāda jauka bloga izveidi,
    Jolanta! prieks

  • Reply Alisa March 4, 2017 at 8:01 am

    This is amazing info Soon i will a mom I need to learn more about it. Thank You

  • Reply Jennifer March 4, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    Really nice. I could have used this years ago and know someone who could have used it about a month ago. It is wonderful that you consider him as well. Many women forget (Not intentionally I’m sure) they both made that little one and daddy is such an important role in a child’s life.

  • Reply Sierra March 7, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    This is so sweet! Time really does pass so quickly and there are so many moments that I wish I could bottle up and cherish forever. I don’t think being a mother ever really gets easier but we learn to navigate the ups and downs a little more each time. Beautifully Candid

  • Reply Tiffanie March 7, 2017 at 6:57 pm

    Aw, this made me nostalgic of that newborn phase! I already miss it! Motherhood is a mixture of loving all the new things our child does, but also missing the sweet things they used to do. I think I will cry when I can’t wear Tenley anymore in my carrier! I just want her to be close to me all the time! Beautiful post, love.

  • Reply Lisa Grooms March 7, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    You literally took the words right out of my mouth! Loved reading this!

  • Reply Dagne March 8, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    thank you for courage to speak about real life! inspirational!

  • Reply Shelby March 9, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    I agree that all my hopes and dreams changed drastically after having a child. It is kind of hard to admit. It’s like you are backstabbing your former self. Anyways, great post! Lovely photos, as always.

  • Reply Bradina Alexander March 22, 2017 at 2:43 am

    I think I understand some of what you’re feeling and going thru. Not all mind you. I have a 9 year old son a 6 1/2 month old daughter and I’m already 23 weeks pregnant with my 3rd, as well as 2 step-daughters. So wondering if I can do this (given the fact that the babies will be 11 months apart) has definitely crossed my mind. And even though I know it will be extremely difficult sometimes, a lot of the time LOL in the beginning, I will get through it and so will you. it doesn’t stay difficult forever. Hope the best for you you, are a strong woman

    • Reply Jolanta March 22, 2017 at 2:56 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and wishes. It means a lot to me. Wishing you all the best! You’ve got this!

  • Reply Nicolle March 29, 2017 at 4:45 am

    I know this post was written last month, but it really resonated with me. I know that my husband has felt left out at times. I was in full control mode getting everything done, but at the same time not considering his input on raising the kids. Our relationship is so much stronger once he expressed his concern (unfortunately, I wasn’t as forward thinking as you. My husband had to point out his frustration). Now, he is as involved in the enforcement of rules as I am and it is great. It definitely removes some of the “burden” of doing it all that I felt I needed to do.

  • Reply Imaya April 20, 2017 at 6:46 am

    Such a good and honest post. I loved reading it, thanks for sharing and being so real. Jolanta, you are amazing.

    • Reply Jolanta April 20, 2017 at 6:51 am

      Thank you, Imaya!!

  • Reply Sarah April 20, 2017 at 11:19 am

    Wow, just a huge respect on what you did, having had 2 vaginal deliveries myself, the first with a emergency surgery as my placenta was stuck and not arriving as it should.
    Lovely Twins…and amazing Family!

  • Reply Līva April 20, 2017 at 12:34 pm

    Paldies, ka dalījies ar savu pieredzi, Jolanta! Ļoti patiess stāsts par pieredzēto, kas lika man atcerēties un vēlreiz novērtēt to, kas piedzīvots un man dots! Visu cieņu Tavā priekšā! Malace! Tik skaistas meitiņas! Vēlu jums visām veselību un izturību!

    • Reply Jolanta April 20, 2017 at 12:55 pm

      Mīļš padies par komentāru un jaukajiem vēlējumiem!

  • Reply Nicole April 20, 2017 at 5:56 pm

    You’re so right, that we need to advocate for mommies understanding what’s going on in situations! It sounds like you’re doing the hard work of loving yourself, listening to your needs as you process the surprising parts of your birth. Healthy babies and moms are awesome, but birth stories are more than just that. Thanks for your courage in sharing yours!

  • Reply Carey Helmick April 21, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    This is a beautiful but scary story! I’m so glad you and your little twins are okay. Your birthing pictures are just gorgeous!

    • Reply Jolanta April 21, 2017 at 6:36 pm

      Thank you, Carey!

  • Reply Brennon May 4, 2017 at 3:49 am

    Such an amazing story and photos. You look gorgeous. Thanks for sharing with us!

  • Reply Olga May 5, 2017 at 2:01 am

    Your story made me cry and your girls are so beautiful. I’m 29 weeks pregnant with MoDi twin girls and I’m so terrified of labor as my doctor said I need to be prepared for anything…

    • Reply Jolanta May 5, 2017 at 8:24 am

      Exactly, be prepared! So if something will happen, you won’t be afraid, like I was. Wishing you all the best!
      P.S. Having twins is amazing! You’ll love it 🙂

  • Reply ilze May 14, 2017 at 8:24 am

    Sveiciens maminu diena!

  • Reply Nicolle May 22, 2017 at 4:44 am

    Beautifully written! I love your story.

  • Reply Mudite Bera June 3, 2017 at 10:09 pm

    I have question, why you havn”t some helper. These days its normal.

    • Reply Jolanta June 3, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      Thank you for your question! Right now I don’t feel like I need one. Most of times babies are sleeping, and there’s not so much to do in our apartment in terms of cleaning. Later, when twins will be older, we will definitely take a nanny. But right now I am completely fine.

  • Reply Una June 4, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    This story makes me cry.. and the twins was so beautifull..

    • Reply Jolanta June 4, 2017 at 2:43 pm

      Thank you so much!!

  • Reply MaryNicknames June 6, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    A great collection of details to help parents realise they know more than they think about helping their kids growing up and parenting 🙂 Also, great for soon-to-be-first-mamas… And as usual, so funny to read! You can’t help but smile at some of them, LOL!

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  • Reply MaryNicknames June 15, 2017 at 6:11 pm

    Oh Jolanta, I’m so sorry to read this! 🙁 You’ve been holding all this inside all this time and yet you’ve been capable all this time to continue the house hunting, to take care of the everyday needs and of your other two little ladies as well as Luna. So your doctor is right: you’re strong and you believe it’s gonna be the very best, ’cause you’re looking out for a future with the three princesses. And I’ve no doubt Luna is so strong too -and she’ll grow up as nice and well as Anya and Mia. Only that she will be the first one to carry a tiny scar, the scar of a warrior and a survivor!
    My mother, who was a teacher, had kids who had gone through that procedure as babies too – and they were as vivacious as anyone. I’m sure you’ll hear wonderful reassuring stories thanks to Internet 🙂
    I’ll be sending you the best of vibes these days! Please keep us posted. Hugs and kisses, María 🙂

    • Reply Jolanta June 24, 2017 at 6:03 pm

      I started blogging to share my experience and somehow to help people. But in the end, I receive more than I give. Thank you for this, Mariá! i appreciate it.

  • Reply Tiffanie June 15, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    I love you so much Jolanta. And I especially love what the doctor said, “You are strong, but she is stronger!” That is so true. Praying and sending my love to your family and Luna. Thank you for sharing this. I know it is hard to just open up to the world, but because of you, many people can find comfort in knowing that seeing how strong and beautiful your family is through it all…that they can be too! Life happens, but sometimes, when it happens to us, we feel all alone. So thank you for sharing Jolanta!

    • Reply Jolanta June 24, 2017 at 6:02 pm

      Tiffanie, you’re the most beautiful person I ever ‘met’, honestly! Thank you so much! I’m forever grateful for your support and kindness!

  • Reply FrenchyGoLucky June 15, 2017 at 8:57 pm

    Sending Luna tons of love!! ❤️
    I was watching a video just the other day of Jimmy Kimmel telling the story of his newborn who like Luna was diagnosed with VSD! If you have not seen the video you may want to have a look (available on YouTube). It made me cry because I just had a baby recently so it will probably be even more emotional for you to watch!
    Sending tons of love and prayers to your beautiful Family!! ❤️❤️❤️

    • Reply Jolanta June 24, 2017 at 5:59 pm

      Thank you so much! It’s very kind of you. I’ll definitely watch it when this nightmare will be finished. Right now I’m too emotional even to think about it.

  • Reply Lyana @simply_mamma June 16, 2017 at 12:51 am

    Oh Jolanta , sending hugs your way, this is by far the hardest time for the mother but I truly believe that everything will be ok for little Luna and she will grow into beautiful young lady to make her parents proud ♥️

    • Reply Jolanta June 24, 2017 at 5:58 pm

      Thank you, Lyana, for the support! You’re very kind, as always. Sending love to your beautiful family!

  • Reply Nicolle June 24, 2017 at 5:49 pm

    I just read this. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I don’t know how I would handle it. My husband has had 2 open heart surgeries and it was heart wrenching to wait. To have it be a little baby…. God bless and prayers for everyone. And babies are strong!!!

    • Reply Jolanta June 24, 2017 at 5:56 pm

      Thank you so much, Nicolle! Hope your husband is fine. I believe that the hardest part will be to wait for it to be finished. I’ve no idea how I’ll survive that day, but I do my best to stay positive and optimistic about all this. Again, thank you for your support! It means a lot to me ❤️

  • Reply Ando July 18, 2017 at 8:57 am

    Hi Jolanta !

    It’s not an easy experience and it can be pretty scary and really stressful .I know that because my baby has VSD too. . She had her heart catheter surgery in january and everything went well . I hope with all my heart that it will be fine for your baby and for all the family. xxx

    • Reply Jolanta July 18, 2017 at 8:58 am

      Thank you so much! The surgery went well and now she’s more happy than ever, and so are we 🙂

  • Reply Magda July 29, 2017 at 11:43 am

    Oh thank goodness! In my mommy-brain fog, I kept checking your blog for updates on the surgery, and finally today I read through the comments to see if there were any news – my heart goes out to you and am so happy for your family that all went well! Sending all of you wishes of health and happiness!

    • Reply Jolanta July 29, 2017 at 12:13 pm

      Thank you so much, Magda! It means a lot to us! Luna is completely fine now, she gains weight very rapidly and is more smiley than ever. We are very proud of her, of all of us 🙂

  • Reply lvsazf August 18, 2017 at 9:14 am

    Thank you for sharing.

  • Reply Peter Long August 22, 2017 at 9:19 am

    First of all, congratulations! Although my blessings is a little late, your baby is so cute. I know it’s tiring to take care of the baby, but every time he smiles at you and you’ll feel very happy.

    • Reply Jolanta August 22, 2017 at 9:33 am

      Thank you so much, Peter! That’s so true

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  • Reply Dita September 18, 2017 at 11:04 am

    Your blog is awesome, thanks for sharing!

  • Reply Sanita September 18, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    Jolanta, Tu esi malacis un zini apbrīnoju Tevi! Izlasīju visu stāstu un jā ir par ko padomāt 😉

  • Reply Maham Baig October 21, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    its Really Hurts when i read Your Story Don’t haVe any Idea About it and how much you Are sUfferring From the First day of Luna’s birth You are So Strong ,really appreciated ❤️ May GOD Bless You anD yOurs Family ❤️❤️❤️ AnD May yOu haVe many More ❤️❤️ Prayers For Luna

    • Reply Jolanta October 21, 2017 at 8:55 pm

      Thank you, my dear friend! I appreciate your support!!!

  • Reply Quinn December 20, 2017 at 8:50 am

    I had the double whammy just over 3 months ago, and I didn’t realize how long my mental recovery from it was taking (and will probably continue to take). My story is similar to yours in the sense that no one told me what was going on, and the emergency c-section happened in a matter of minutes. Thankfully both my boys were healthy too. Thank you for sharing your story!

  • Reply Jordan January 9, 2018 at 9:59 pm

    Hello Jolanta,

    I love following your journey on Instagram. You approach motherhood with honesty, grace, and courage. It’s not easy-but I appreciate your candor.
    I am expecting twins in the next few weeks and I’m scared, excited, and just want them to be here! I also have a three year old little boy. My kiddos won’t be as close in age as your, but I imagine it will still be difficult. My three year old has a congenital heart defect, TGA (transposition of the great arteries) and has had two open heart surgeries thus far. I could relate to your post about your daughter having a septal valve defect. Baby’s are so strong and I couldn’t endure what my son has gone through in his short life. He has a few developmental delays that are related to the surgeries and heart defect. I’m just so grateful he is thriving now.
    Best of luck to you and your adorable, strong family!



  • Reply Tina January 17, 2018 at 8:53 pm

    Just came across your Instagram and blog. Your amazing. Bring a young mom is hard and it’s hard for all of us who have given up dreams for motherhood. Although I wouldn’t give it up for anything. I too have had to grieve my old life and the life i thought I’d have. Anyways, keep up the great work Mama. You got this!

  • Reply Penny January 24, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    Well, first mistake was induction… second is caregivers that do not know how to deliver a breech baby. It is sad to think our western deliver style has penetrated the rest of the world… you wanted to be delivered that day you showed up. Maybe that was a nudge it was not time. When we think we know better than nature, this is the result.
    Thrilled your babies were healthy!
    Between this and the formula feeding (have ya read a formula container/ingredients?!?) it’s a shame you did not know your rights and the best options, being so high profile…
    You are a beautiful family… it just seems you are victims to a poorly run system.

    Hope it you have more some day you realize VBAC is the healthiest and safest, and that you give BF a chance.

    • Reply A April 23, 2018 at 6:54 am

      So long as your babies were born, irrespective of how, healthy that is all that matters.


      Fed is best.

      Gosh we could all write lists of shoulda, woulda, coulda’s but you do whats right for you and your family.

      reading your birth story, even though it didn’t go exactly to plan for you, has just filled the dark place i’m currently in with my twin pregnancy with a little light. The picture of you and your babies is just so precious.

      You most certainly are not a victim- you are a strong mother- just like the rest of us.


  • Reply Eleonora January 29, 2018 at 8:46 pm

    Thank you for your words.
    I’m close to you and I understand you. it is very hard to take back one’s life.

  • Reply Ieva January 29, 2018 at 9:03 pm

    So what helped you to get through depression?

    • Reply Jolanta January 29, 2018 at 9:11 pm

      Support from my husband and mother community on Instagram. I received so much love and I finally felt understood. We hired a nanny, booked the tickets to a sunny place, sent the girls to their grandparents very often so I can simply relax. Also, I think there were moments when I simply crossed the lines with my miserable behavior, and that helped me understand that I don’t want to be the kind of person I was at the moment. I’m not saying that it’s all over but I work on myself very hard every day. I don’t want to see my family being unhappy because of me.

  • Reply Cloé January 29, 2018 at 9:23 pm

    En plus d’avoir accouché le même jour, nous avons également ce point commun: être passé par ce mal être si difficile à comprendre et à surpasser.
    Si jamais tu le sentais revenir je ne peux que te conseiller d’en parler à un médecin/psy… c’est ce que j’ai fait et cela a été salvateur!

  • Reply Tiffanie Anne January 29, 2018 at 10:37 pm

    I am so incredibly proud of you. PPD is not only difficult to cope with, but it is harder to come to terms with. I denied of having it for more than half a year and I can’t believe what it took to have me finally admit to having it. I had suicidal thoughts, similar to what you had, and I am glad to hear that you reached out to your mom about it. I am sending you all the loving and positive vibes to you to provide you that extra strength and love to get you through each and everyday. You are wonderful mom, wife, influencer, and woman. DONT YOU EVER FORGET THAT! You are so strong and brave to write this, because people need to be aware of this and be more compassionate and understanding to others.

    Love you!

  • Reply Kiki January 29, 2018 at 11:25 pm

    Kā es tevi saprotu. Es visu laiku domāju, ja būtu par to iepriekš lasījusi, vai es būtu tam gatava. Domāju, ka nē. Tam nav iespējams sagatavoties, kas nāk. To nekad neviens nesapratīs, ja nebūs uz savas ādas izjutis. Es domāju, ka nekad, nekad vairs nebūšu normāla, ka es nekad vairs nebūšu es. Sliktākais, ka tāda bija arī visa grūtniecība un es nekam tādam nebiju gatava. Biju gatava vemt, palikt apaļa, bet ne psiholoģiski kļūt cita persona. Es pat mēnesi pēc dzemdībām lietoju antidepressantus, bet nezinu, vai tie man palīdzēja, vai vienkārši laiks. Tajā laikā neviens man nevarēja palīdzēt, lai gan ar mani ļoti daudz runāja un mierināja. Tagad bērnam ir gads un trīs mēneši un es gandrīz esmu atpakaļ. Ļoti reti vēl uznāk bailes, vientulības un bezjēdzības sajūta, lielākoties no rītiem, bet arvien retāk. Turies! Pāries! Tie sasodītie hormoni!!!

  • Reply Prachi January 30, 2018 at 5:46 am

    Hi Jolanta,

    I have been closely following your insta page and landed up on this post from there. I have seen my mother battle stress and anxiety due to her poor health. We sought medical help and trust me it really helps to speed up the recovery and healing. Please do consult a good mental health practitioner. A little medication and small lifestyle changes will really help to get rid of PPD.

    Love from India.

  • Reply alexandra tardy January 30, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    It is a beautiful and very brave post! I hope you are getting better!
    I am trying to write a (kind of) blog myself but very starting…if you ever take a peek:

    xx Alexandra

  • Reply Imaya February 5, 2018 at 6:46 pm

    Jolanta, one of my favorite qualtabout you is your authenticity. In a social world that seeks to one up each other in perfection you are a breath of fresh air. This is a very brave post and one that needs to be shared and shared.

  • Reply ildze February 6, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    Es izlasiju so un sapratu ka es tiesi ta par jutos sini vasara. Es dzivoju Portugale un sobrid esmu skirudies un zinu cik gruti dazreiz ir but ar bernu vienai kad nekur nav kur pasai likties. man loti patik tavs blogs un atradu nejausi.

    • Reply Jolanta February 6, 2018 at 1:19 pm

      Mīļš paldies! Es pat nezinu, kas ir trakāks – ikdienas grūtības un viss, kas nāk klāt, vai tā neizturamā vientulības sajūta.

  • Reply Cherie (Instagram name: ysllovelife) February 13, 2018 at 1:06 am

    I love how you keep yourself positive and passing the positive energy to the people around you! It’s not easy looking after three kids especially they are all under two! I have two kids, one is 4.5 and one is 1, i found it so hard sometimes. Well done mama!

  • Reply Ilaria February 26, 2018 at 4:16 pm

    You are my heroine! I am pregnant with my first baby: I hope to travel a lot with him/her. And I can imagine how difficult it can be. I think you are right: attitude is everything!
    Well done!
    A lot of love from me and my little bean

  • Reply Andra March 27, 2018 at 5:57 pm

    My story is very similar to yours, but worse. We had bought an apartment that year and the deadline for renovation was March, as my due date was May, 4th. But of course the finish got delayed and in order to rush things, I decided to get involved and to help out, as little as I could. Yet we calculated that we would finish by the end of March and would move in and prepare ourselves for the baby.
    On the 11. 04 I was at the apartment and suddenly felt sick. Nausea and fever tremour. I called my Dr. and went to the hospital for a check up. By the time I got there my temperature had risen and I felt worse. They decided to keep my overnight under supervision and to release my the next day. But it worsened and the first thing in the morning a nurse announced my that they are preparing me for C-section, as my little one was in breech position. I instantly panicked! Suddenly I was invaded by many thoughts: she’ll be here 3 weeks early; the apartment is not ready yet, we won’t be able to move in (at our rental everything was all packed already); I didn’t have time to wax ..- everything added on and I didn’t feel like being prepared yet. On the other hand, I was already dilated so the birth would have taken place anyway! The c-section story is almost identical to yours; many attempts for the epidural anaesthesia and me panicking and screaming not to cut me as I was still feeling their hands on my belly.
    Apparently my labour got induced by an E-coli Infection that caused me severe dehydration in the next 6 days.
    I am trying to forget everything else and just remember that magical moment when they put my perfectly healthy baby on my cheek! -it was priceless

  • Reply Astrid March 28, 2018 at 7:04 am

    Now i’m in the same situation like you…i’m sad, angry, depressed. I thinking my life is over you’ re very strong

  • Reply Kendra March 29, 2018 at 2:41 am

    Love the photos in this post. Not sure if we’re going to be flying with our little bean anytime soon – but its good to know it can be done!

  • Reply Hafsa Rehman March 29, 2018 at 6:41 pm

    Hats of to u!!!
    You are blessed to have 3 girls in your life…You are really a Strong Women!!!
    God bless you moreee!!!!

  • Reply Anna March 29, 2018 at 9:43 pm


  • Reply Agnese March 29, 2018 at 10:05 pm

    Lasot šo stāstu asaras sariesās acīs. Tu esi tāds malacis un tik daudz jau pieredzējusi, apbrīnojama sieviete. Liels paldies, ka dalījies ar tik patiesu stāstu. Lai turpmākā dzīvē jums visiem stipra veselība, mīlestība, harmonija, lai viss izdodas, kas iecerēts.

  • Reply Jean March 31, 2018 at 6:38 am

    I was warned that this exact thing was a possibility by my consultant. She went into a lot of detail and I was fortunate to request a c section due to the risks associated with twin 2 possibly flipping. However even the c section did not go as smoothly as planned and I ended up in an emergency situation. Luckily all ended well. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Reply Roz Hannan April 16, 2018 at 10:45 am

    Well done!! Not easy I know. I lived in Asia when my 2 were babies and we traveled to the UK once or twice a year….a 12/14 hour journey! Nappies, bottles, changes of clothing..etc etc.
    I always seemed to end up traveling with them myself too as I would travel a couple of weeks ahead of my husband and stay on later. He would rock up with just a carry-on bag!
    The last time I did it they were 4 and 7. They wheeled their own bags, ate the food and slept…. and NO BUGGY! So easy! After that we were permanently relocated to the UK.
    I could never have done it with 3 little ones so congrats to you…organisation is key.

  • Reply A April 23, 2018 at 6:43 am

    I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins and I have to say I have been less than happy about the whole situation. I have 2 children already, a 5 year old and an 11 month old, and getting pregnant again was beyond the last thing on my mind- let alone with twins!!

    I’m suffering with 10x worse pain, sleepless nights, hormones all ontop of being a mother of 2 already. I am riddled with guilt that I am not excited for my babies to arrive along with wanting them the heck out of my body as walking is becoming harder by the day. I hope to god that once these babies arrive all the negativity I’ve had surrounding the pregnancy vanishes and I can be as happy as I was with my other children.

    I love these babies I know I do, I just do not love being pregnant with them and i’m terrified of handling 4 children when my plan was to only ever have 2.

    I sure hope this sadness will lift.

  • Reply soontobemumof4 April 23, 2018 at 7:09 am

    I BF my first child for a max of 3 months – very quickly switched to formula as I just wasn’t happy with being a constant milk supply and feeding being solely down to me and pumping the milk out was so painful and to be quite frank i’d been through enough pain- it took 2 to make the baby, i grew her, and now it’s daddy’s turn to help feed and raise her.

    Baby #2 was in NICU for 2 weeks and i had intended to give him my colestrum but it just didn’t work out. I was traumatized from my awful delivery and the fact my baby wasn’t well – my milk just wasn’t coming out. I quickly decided that I wasn’t putting additional stress onto myself when I had an ill child to focus on, another child who was wondering what was going on and a husband who felt helpless.

    The twins- I have no intention of BF my twins when they are born. No desire to have 2 babies strapped to my chest and other children to tend to at the same time. Feeding will be a shared task in my house. No pressure, no stress. Just fed.

    I have certainly had to develop a thick skin since having children- Infact i’ve used this pregnancy as a great excuse to really let people know what I think about their unwanted opinions on how i’m raising my children. HAHA

  • Reply Lauren April 30, 2018 at 10:54 pm

    Congratulations! Such a great, happy energy comes through in these beautiful photographs. Wishing you much happiness ☺

  • Reply Laurie April 30, 2018 at 10:58 pm

    You guys had a BeAuTiFuL wedding !!! Jolanta – your dress is stunning and you’re right … his face when he saw all of you is “priceless!!” The babies were darling!!! I looove the pic of Anya handing the wedding ring to Daddy!! Lovely day and WOW!!! – GoRgEoUs reception!!!! Sending wishes for many years of wedded Bliss!!!

  • Reply Emi May 1, 2018 at 5:24 am

    So beautiful and happy! Congratulations!

  • Reply Bahram May 14, 2018 at 8:39 am

    Dear Jolanta
    I read your written and I am happy after read that she was good after surgery ,my baby born 8 months ago and doctor says he is TOF, I have question from you if possible for you please help me
    our baby growth s is stop and do not add weight
    so thanks

  • Reply Andisiwe July 18, 2018 at 8:56 pm

    From one lazy mom to another, I fully agree with you.

  • Reply Oldnewdaddy August 10, 2018 at 10:03 am

    Thanks for sharing. My daughter was born premature with moderate to large vsd. Right now we just want her to be comfortable and have a normal newborn life. But what people dun see is the family dynamics when a child with congenital heart disease is born. Grandparents tend to panic, parents feel helpless and there are often arguments over how our precious daughter should be managed. As a husband and father i tend to get caught between these relationships. Ultimately we want thr child to be happy, but family tensions can’t be avoided.

  • Reply Elisa August 28, 2018 at 5:45 am

    Great job mom. I started making art with our oldest when she was about 7 months old. she is 11 now and loves all types of art. I have fingerpainted a few times with our twins (21 months) I’m not sure how to keep it under control enough for us all to enjoy it. They love to paint in their highchairs with yogurt. Have you tried to paint with your twins yet? How did it go?

    • Reply Jolanta August 28, 2018 at 9:20 am

      Hi! Thank you for your comment! I give Mia and Luna crayons and markers, but they are just playing, not drawing. However, I continue to give them for a little practice because if I don’t, they will never learn. They love stickers, tho. And high chairs sounds like a brilliant idea! Thank you!!

  • Reply Amna August 28, 2018 at 6:15 am

    Phew! Sounds like a lot of work but totally worth it in the end. I’ve been contemplating the idea of introducing paint to my 2yr old but I had no clue about what will be in store. Thanks for sharing with your little artist ☺️

    • Reply Jolanta August 28, 2018 at 9:16 am

      It sounds like a lot of work but once you both find a system that works for you the best, it’s really easy.

  • Reply Amjnath Mohamed August 28, 2018 at 7:31 am

    Hi, I’m from Maldives and I have been waiting so long for these tips. Thank you so much for sharing. You are a huge inspiration.

    • Reply Jolanta August 28, 2018 at 9:13 am

      Thank you so much! Xx

  • Reply Laura August 28, 2018 at 8:46 am

    Really really helpful! My twins are 6 months old now, so we’ll start soon with crayons and stickers and see if they enjoy it. I hope they do, so se could have some family art-time together. Thank you!!

  • Reply Elina August 28, 2018 at 8:56 am

    Paldies par rakstu. Viegli lasāms un patiešām noderīgs ieraksts.

  • Reply Amy September 12, 2018 at 2:18 am

    I love this! So much truth. You are wise beyond your years. Also your English is amazing for it not beong your first language. Thanks for the great adcice.

    • Reply Jolanta September 13, 2018 at 6:40 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m always worried about my English when I write the blog.

  • Reply Nadia September 13, 2018 at 11:26 am

    You’re doing amazing! You’re more mature than anyone who dares judge you and your age. Only immature, insecure people point fingers. Keep it up! x

  • Reply jeimee.d September 19, 2018 at 2:51 pm

    Dearest Jolanta, you inspire me so much! I first followed you on IG, and it feels like I can relate to everything you post. You even inspired me to make a blog myself and pour my heart out! But really, I just love reading about your life, and how you speak for the likes of us young moms. Love lots from the other side of the world. xxxxx

    • Reply Jolanta September 19, 2018 at 5:11 pm

      Thank you SO much!!!!!!!!!

  • Reply Ирина September 24, 2018 at 11:37 pm

    Вы для меня открыли новый мир ,как же легко и непринуждённо можно проводить время со своими детками !!!Я вдохновляюсь каждым Вашим новым постом и статьёй!!!Такой любви и нежности ,которая исходит от Вас ,я давно не ощущала .Спасибо Вам за Ваш труд

    • Reply Jolanta September 27, 2018 at 9:45 am

      Спасибо ☺️

  • Reply Jana September 27, 2018 at 9:06 am

    Jolanta – tu esi lieliska 😉 u rock giiirl!

  • Reply Bahresh October 3, 2018 at 11:54 am

    This blog gives me goosebumps really and this is really ambitious to see that still some of the bloggers are still doing there best and im good to see these type of creativity level in toddler’s .

  • Reply Anitra October 7, 2018 at 8:48 pm

    For a society that claims to be soo open minded, it is quite daunting to see how narrow minded people can be when it comes to parenting, especially ‘young’ parenting. I think people forget, that just because it is possible to delay motherhood, it does not mean everybody should. Not that long ago this used to be a norm… But what strikes me is that even people, who bacame parents at the same age, would still say the same. What most people forget is that we become mature due to our experiences, so the fastest way to matture is to get children…
    But this misconception that having children somehow robs you of your future is ridiculous… Of course it brings adjustments, but life is full of adjustments… What good does it do to study in the wrong field and after realize it is not for you? It is also a waste of time, even more so than having children. No time spent on your children is ever a waste. Life is full of trials and errors, we just have to learn to make most of it. And maybe we should all remember that plans are not predictions of future, the beauty of living is not sticking to our plans at all times, but making choices and adjustments. And more often than not realizing that unexpectedly we got so much more than what we had imagined.

  • Reply V October 10, 2018 at 12:27 pm

    I have two children, my first at age 27. We had some fertility struggles (nothing serious), and we often thought/think we started late. Where we live age 27 is young in comparison to the other first time parents (majority 35+). I get many of the same comments you’ve mentioned in this post. I don’t think it helps that I am quite petite, people mistake me for being a lot younger, and I do feel that is one of the reasons other mothers don’t want to connect with me. Situations can be uncomfortable at times, I get glares from older women, one situation that often springs to mind is when my new GP laughed and told me that my children look like they could be my siblings (a bit of stretch in my opinion). On good days I’ll laugh it off and think well I guess I’m aging well? Other times I’m offended and not sure how to react.

    • Reply Jolanta October 10, 2018 at 2:11 pm

      I always say that nothing is more cruel than a jealous woman! Thank you for your comment! Be strong, sexy mama!

  • Reply Debbie October 10, 2018 at 6:13 pm

    Your one smart cookie and I’m in agreement with all of yout great info! I especially love the part about taking them out often and also about not stressing out! When mom freaks out the kids can feel the tension and start acting out even more.
    It’s refreshing to see a young mom invest so dearly in the raising of her little one! I applaud you!

    • Reply Jolanta October 10, 2018 at 6:17 pm

      Thank you so much 🙂

  • Reply Amna December 4, 2018 at 1:59 pm

    So well written and absolutely true! I was the helicopter mom when I had only one, but as you said I don’t have the energy nor the desire to be as controlling after my second. I guess we also evolve as parents and better understand how to look after our children ☺️

    • Reply Jolanta December 4, 2018 at 2:03 pm

      Totally agree! With time we become more confident as parents and are able to cope with everything in a different, much easier way. Thank you for your comment

  • Reply kristy mcmillen December 4, 2018 at 11:23 pm

    Omg the dont say no to panda videos.. I just watched them on Youtube.. best thing I read about today and I totally relate with my 15 month old girl hahaha

  • Reply Luka December 16, 2018 at 7:45 pm

    I really enjoy the honest stories of you and your family since almost a year now and also tell other mom-friends about you and your crazy life with three toddlers and show them your pictures. Who would have thought that life has the same plan for me in mind.
    My babygirl is now 15 months old and since 2 months we know we’re expecting twins as well (may/june 2019). Until then I’ll soak up every word you write about good life with twins and three kids and hopefully I will remember this during the sleepless nights and looooong days next year. Just wanted to tell you that I really like your style, it’s not easy to ‘stand out’ as a blogging/ig-mom these days but you definitely nail it. Love! Luka from Amsterdam

    • Reply Jolanta December 16, 2018 at 10:45 pm

      Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!! Wishing you all the best for 2019! What a year it will be for you

  • Reply Gulcin February 13, 2019 at 3:14 pm

    What if he doesnt want to involve things about babies needs… I mean he is always tired. What i think is that we really messed up Anyway, you are a great mom, partner and a writer ❤️ thank you

    • Reply Jolanta February 13, 2019 at 3:17 pm

      If he doesn’t want, he shouldn’t have kids, in my opinion. Taking care of little ones is both parents’ responsibility. We all are all tired, you know?! And thank you Xx

  • Reply elise February 13, 2019 at 6:09 pm

    Are you thinking about teaching them Latvian at some point?

    • Reply Jolanta February 13, 2019 at 6:38 pm

      Yes, but a little bit later. Otherwise, they’ll never start to talk haha

  • Reply Carlotta February 13, 2019 at 6:47 pm

    Completely agree with you. They are so lucky to have parents able to teach them more then one language. I have a 18 months old son, I talk to him in italian and my partner in Spanish and when we are together in English. Tv is only allow is Spanish in my home he does understand very well but only says a few words but I know he will take him some time to digest all 3 languages. At the nursery the other day the teacher told me he should start saying sentenses?! I mean he is only 18 months and tringual what do they aspect him to say?

    • Reply Jolanta February 13, 2019 at 6:51 pm

      18 months?? Sorry but even kids that speak only one language can’t make even the simplest sentences. But probably she’s just jealous or something but what she said is totally not normal. Lol, lol and lol

  • Reply Destiny March 8, 2019 at 3:15 am

    Also a young soon to be mother of three , I also understand have received funny looks from people, like they never seen a young mother before I am 25 years old and have matured tremendously over the years. Not only have having children matured me but helped shape me into the woman I am today strong. Never doubt yourself being a good mom you ARE.. I Wouldn’t trade my babies for the world. Your not alone its plenty of us young mommies out there raising our babies and taking care of business. we were made 4 this you got this girl

  • Reply Rachel Lee April 19, 2019 at 11:04 am

    Wow, your children are so clever.
    So, will you teach them other languages, say, Spanish in the future?

    • Reply Jolanta April 19, 2019 at 11:15 am

      They will learn other languages in school 🙂 I don’t know Spanish, unfortunately

  • Reply Elina Petmanson May 5, 2019 at 6:41 pm

    I never understood why our parents made us speak Russian after we moved to, Finland. Now I’m more than grateful they didn’t let us speak Finnish at home as now I speak Russian to my son, whereas husband speaks Finnish to him. Once he will be 3, we will put him into English kindergarten so he would learn the language as he has grandfather, uncle and aunt in Greece.

    • Reply Jolanta May 5, 2019 at 6:48 pm

      Thank you for the comment, Elīna! I’m very happy for your family.

  • Reply Madara June 21, 2019 at 9:41 pm

    We have the same situation at home. I speak Latvian to my kid, father in French and together in English and from September he will start to learn Czech in local kindergarden. It took some time for him to absorb all those languages but now he is almoust 3 years old and he understand all languages very well, he speak in all of them but the same as in your case mixing up all 3 in one sentence. And as you mentioned cartoons helps a lot. My son he knows how to count till 20 in 3 languages, he recognise numbers and letters in all the languages (except Latvian č, š, ž etc). But yes this is something amazing what we can give to our children and it will make their life more easier.

  • Reply Kennedy June 25, 2019 at 2:07 pm

    I love this! My husband and I are both born and raised here in America and know very little Spanish. We both took Spanish in grade school but it was never something that stuck. I was HORRIBLE at all. It didn’t help that my teachers didn’t even know it either! Lol so we are teaching the kids what we know. Some words, numbers, etc. I wish I knew more though):

  • Reply Jeimee D. July 18, 2019 at 2:28 am

    I have never loved myself more after reading this. I’m a fan of yours and I can totally relate to every word you say! I’m so glad to have found you! <3

    • Reply Jolanta July 18, 2019 at 2:28 am

      Thank you sooo much!